Ahhh! I can't contain myself, I just wanted to share my exciting news with everyone asap. I waited a few days after peeing on the stick to tell my mom. I knew she'd be super ecstatic but since I was going home to visit and all my siblings will be there too, I opted to wait to tell her in person. I remember walking into the kitchen and I poked her, trying to be discreet to tell her to follow when she was ready. Little did I know, she proclaimed out loud to my sisters, I wonder why Phuong poked me telling me to come. 🤔 She came up to her bedroom where I told her the exciting news. My eldest sister then pops in and I can hear my other one running up the stairs. Of course we're all jumping up and down now at this point over pure excitement. I had reservations on telling my sisters so soon since I didn't even have my first confirmation ultrasound appointment yet but I know if anything were to happen unexpectedly, I'd have them by my side supporting me.
I waited to tell friends just in case as majority states it's best to wait until after the first trimester where the highest risk of miscarriage was over. My closest girlfriends knew right away as I'm a creature of habit. When I don't order my usual cold brew iced coffee, cheese, or sushi during our dinner dates... something was up. I did pre-warn them, if I don't have a drink in my hand when we go out, pretend like you don't notice haha. Hiding it when going out for birthdays were a bit more challenging as I'm not one for lying. Being a girl who loves exotic cocktails, I tried to discreetly inform the bartender to make it a mocktail and wished secretly no one asked to try my drink.
There really isn't ever a "right time" although I find it to be the comfort level of the parents-to-be to share the news when their ready. I told my family days after the pregnancy test confirmed it, even before my missed period. I only felt comfortable to tell friends after I felt safe that Bae will be okay. Once we hit that 12 week mark, it felt like such a relief to be able to share my baby news with them. So it's really up to you to decide when.